a sense of wasted tenderness


<..> but in the end, it’s a long, cold night and those woods for all of us.



"As the Euclideans would have it, irrationality is the square root of all evil."



"all children are crushed by the past of others"
thetallblacknerdthatalbanianguy

thatalbanianguy:

thetallblacknerd:

How do people like summer?

You can swim in the summer without getting hypothermia.

Warmer temperatures don’t put my body in so much stress, and I feel less anxious during summer. 
Overall, people [seem to] tend to engage in more health-promoting activities during the summer because it takes less effort and money.
If you’re a poor, friendless kid in a shitty home, during the summer you can go outside and it takes less effort and money to find something to do. 

Also, summer dusk smell, rainstorms, laziness (and so doing nothing and recharging) as acceptable MO, small acoustic outdoors concerts, etc.

violentwavesofemotionvardes
"I’m in pain because the day is ending and somehow I am never healing."

- Anne Sexton, from A Self-Portrait In Letters   (via niet-zsche)

8/24 19:47 - vardes - 2,833 notes
supruntu
supruntu:

Srikaton Mindarwanto

supruntu:

Srikaton Mindarwanto

8/21 22:00 - supruntu - 100 notes
fuckyeahexistentialism

Why you are anxious all the time | Philosophers' Mail →

fuckyeahexistentialism:

Today, like most days, you are anxious. It is there in the background, always present, sometimes more to the fore, sometimes less so, but never truly banished – at least not for longer than an evening. The anxiety appears to be about some very particular things: the party where you won’t know many people, the complicated trip you have to take to some unfamiliar hotels, the direction of your career, the drilling outside, the email problem, the claustrophobic interior of the plane, your digestive system…

But considered from a broader perspective, the problem for us is larger, more damning and a great deal more fundamental. Beyond any specific thing we happen to be worrying about, looked at over time, a greater conclusion is inescapable: we simply are anxious, to our core, in the very basic make-up of our being. Though we may focus day-to-day on this or that particular worry creating static in our minds, what we are really up against is anxiety as a permanent feature of life, something irrevocable, existential, dogged – and responsible for ruining a dominant share of our brief time on earth.

I don’t know if I can hope to express the utter bone-deep weariness I feel at the myriad of off point, vaguely ideologically influenced, a-ha! type of inertia-driven and formulated, thought leap-ridden, myopic flashes of something akin to insight that the textual part of my dashboard - with minor exceptions - eventually turns into no matter how much I fine tune it.

Yes, I get it. You think you’re right, you think you’ve really got it; in fact, you very resolutely don’t think that, you unobtrusively, cooly pride yourself on not being one of the self-righteous ones, instead, you operate on that ‘knowledge’ that is as bone-deep as my complete current burn out in reaction to being surrounded by such robotic, subtly self-aggrandizing thinking.

In other words, if you stopped reflexively, uncontrollably relating your shell - sorry, I mean self - to the phenomenon that you are analyzing, perhaps your analyses would actually gradually lead to some sort of multifaceted understanding of how individual psyches and social forces, interplays, and interactions feed into each other. 

In other words, behind the peeling layers of being tired of being right, you don’t want the truth - you still want to be right, nonetheless.

tl;dr: tumblr opinions: snatching the tail of an epiphany and running with it off the page and right into disjointed, frankensteinian conjecture unwittingly molded and confined by an uninterrupted, unconscious self-preservation motivated attachment to one’s subjective experience.

8/21 21:42 - 2 notes

This last half year has been unusually social for me - to say the least - and today I’m feeling more talkative than ever, so, if you’d like, ask me something (anon is acceptable, though I will respect your privacy if you indicate a desire for it). I do wish I interacted with my followers more, sometimes.

fraudulentfeminist
fraudulentfeminist:

"I need feminism because… There are more MPs called Dave than female MPs"Yeah. Fuck you, Dave. How dare you study politics and take an interest in leadership roles. What a selfish bastard you are, for pursuing a career that supports your country and keeps it from descending into anarchy. Fuck you, Dave, because it is entirely your fault that women aren’t as inclined to pursue leadership roles like being a Member of Parliament. Women [theanimalawake&#8217;s addition: women like this one] want more representation in politics, but none of them actually want to take on the responsibility of representation themselves; they want someone else to do it for them. "Too many men," they say. "There are just too many Daves. This isn’t fair." Newsflash, Dave, you are a man. You are solely responsible for women avoiding politics. There are too many of you. Whatever you do, Dave, it means shit. No one is going to look up to you. Who gives a damn about your leadership skills, your integrity or honesty? You won’t ever be an inspiration or motivation for women pursuing politics, simply because you don’t have a vagina between your legs. As we all know, women only respect and admire other women.  Holy shit, Dave, you didn’t think about that, did you? 

It must be understood that when it comes to politics and any kind of activity where majority vote plays a part, social conditioning, biases and prejudice do exert their influence (anecdote: a female acquaintance once told me she believed that a woman should not be a president and when asked for elaboration on her reasoning, refused, claiming &#8216;a right to her opinion&#8217;), however, I want to draw everyone&#8217;s attention to the bolded part as I encounter this phenomenon fairly often. 

fraudulentfeminist:

"I need feminism because… There are more MPs called Dave than female MPs"

Yeah. Fuck you, Dave. 

How dare you study politics and take an interest in leadership roles. What a selfish bastard you are, for pursuing a career that supports your country and keeps it from descending into anarchy. Fuck you, Dave, because it is entirely your fault that women aren’t as inclined to pursue leadership roles like being a Member of Parliament.

Women [theanimalawake’s addition: women like this one] want more representation in politics, but none of them actually want to take on the responsibility of representation themselves; they want someone else to do it for them. 

"Too many men," they say. "There are just too many Daves. This isn’t fair."

Newsflash, Dave, you are a man. You are solely responsible for women avoiding politics. There are too many of you. Whatever you do, Dave, it means shit. No one is going to look up to you. Who gives a damn about your leadership skills, your integrity or honesty? You won’t ever be an inspiration or motivation for women pursuing politics, simply because you don’t have a vagina between your legs. As we all know, women only respect and admire other women.  

Holy shit, Dave, you didn’t think about that, did you? 

It must be understood that when it comes to politics and any kind of activity where majority vote plays a part, social conditioning, biases and prejudice do exert their influence (anecdote: a female acquaintance once told me she believed that a woman should not be a president and when asked for elaboration on her reasoning, refused, claiming ‘a right to her opinion’), however, I want to draw everyone’s attention to the bolded part as I encounter this phenomenon fairly often. 

dailyholzerdarklynoon

dailyholzer:

IT’S HARD TO KNOW IF YOU’RE CRAZY IF YOU FEEL YOU’RE IN DANGER ALL THE TIME NOW

8/19 18:34 - darklynoon - 97 notes
missrosemaryclairefuckyeahexistentialism
"We must take sides. Neutrality helps the oppressor, never the victim. Silence encourages the tormentor, never the tormented. Sometimes we must interfere. When human lives are endangered, when human dignity is in jeopardy, national borders and sensitivities become irrelevant. Wherever men and women are persecuted because of their race, religion, or political views, that place must - at that moment - become the center of the universe."

- Elie Wiesel (via missrosemaryclaire)

sideeyeingyouhardchronorevelations

sideeyeingyouhard:

You know, feminists are all about protecting their victims. Rape is rape. Abuse is abuse. Until that victim is male, then they’re perfectly happy to dissect definitions and quantify severity. All hail equality.

23claw
8/18 18:05 - 23claw - 417 notes

If you preface any discussion, essay or other type of text with your definition of something rather than a brief analysis/overview of existing definitions, their context, history, and interplay, chances are I have already stopped reading. 

tributary

tributary:

i tend to be more trusting around people who don’t use academic anti-oppression language like some people do adverbs, and while that might be misguided, way too many people use the fact that they speak the language to cover up their prejudices.

8/13 09:29 - tributary - 32 notes
neurosciencestuff

neurosciencestuff:

How we form habits and change existing ones

Much of our daily lives are taken up by habits that we’ve formed over our lifetime. An important characteristic of a habit is that it’s automatic— we don’t always recognize habits in our own behavior. Studies show that about 40 percent of people’s daily activities are performed each day in almost the same situations. Habits emerge through associative learning. “We find patterns of behavior that allow us to reach goals. We repeat what works, and when actions are repeated in a stable context, we form associations between cues and response,” Wendy Wood explains in her session at the American Psychological Association’s 122nd Annual Convention.

What are habits?

Wood calls attention to the neurology of habits, and how they have a recognizable neural signature. When you are learning a response you engage your associative basal ganglia, which involves the prefrontal cortex and supports working memory so you can make decisions. As you repeat the behavior in the same context, the information is reorganized in your brain. It shifts to the sensory motor loop that supports representations of cue response associations, and no longer retains information on the goal or outcome. This shift from goal directed to context cue response helps to explain why our habits are rigid behaviors.

There is a dual mind at play, Wood explains. When our intentional mind is engaged, we act in ways that meet an outcome we desire and typically we’re aware of our intentions. Intentions can change quickly because we can make conscious decisions about what we want to do in the future that may be different from the past. However, when the habitual mind is engaged, our habits function largely outside of awareness. We can’t easily articulate how we do our habits or why we do them, and they change slowly through repeated experience. “Our minds don’t always integrate in the best way possible. Even when you know the right answer, you can’t make yourself change the habitual behavior,” Wood says.

Participants in a study were asked to taste popcorn, and as expected, fresh popcorn was preferable to stale. But when participants were given popcorn in a movie theater, people who have a habit of eating popcorn at the movies ate just as much stale popcorn as participants in the fresh popcorn group. “The thoughtful intentional mind is easily derailed and people tend to fall back on habitual behaviors. Forty percent of the time we’re not thinking about what we’re doing,” Wood interjects. “Habits allow us to focus on other things…Willpower is a limited resource, and when it runs out you fall back on habits.”

How can we change our habits?

Public service announcements, educational programs, community workshops, and weight-loss programs are all geared toward improving your day-to-day habits. But are they really effective? These standard interventions are very successful at increasing motivation and desire. You will almost always leave feeling like you can change and that you want to change. The programs give you knowledge and goal-setting strategies for implementation, but these programs only address the intentional mind.

In a study on the “Take 5” program, 35 percent of people polled came away believing they should eat 5 fruits and vegetables a day. Looking at that result, it appears that the national program was effective at teaching people that it’s important to have 5 servings of fruits and vegetables every day. But the data changes when you ask what people are actually eating. Only 11 percent of people reported that they met this goal. The program changed people’s intentions, but it did not overrule habitual behavior.

According to Wood, there are three main principles to consider when effectively changing habitual behavior. First, you must derail existing habits and create a window of opportunity to act on new intentions. Someone who moves to a new city or changes jobs has the perfect scenario to disrupt old cues and create new habits. When the cues for existing habits are removed, it’s easier to form a new behavior. If you can’t alter your entire environment by switching cities— make small changes. For instance, if weight-loss or healthy eating is your goal, try moving unhealthy foods to a top shelf out of reach, or to the back of the freezer instead of in front.

The second principle is remembering that repetition is key. Studies have shown it can take anywhere from 15 days to 254 days to truly form a new habit. “There’s no easy formula for how long it takes,” Wood says. Lastly, there must be stable context cues available in order to trigger a new pattern. “It’s easier to maintain the behavior if it’s repeated in a specific context,” Wood emphasizes. Flossing after you brush your teeth allows the act of brushing to be the cue to remember to floss. Reversing the two behaviors is not as successful at creating a new flossing habit. Having an initial cue is a crucial component.

the-eremite23claw

the-eremite:

When are people going to stop doing that “type the beginning of a sentence into Google and use the results as the basis for my political beliefs” thing, because I was getting tired of that two years ago.

Most likely, when it truly sinks in that in reality these reflect one’s own search history, and it stops being such a successful - if tacky - gimmick.

8/13 09:23 - 23claw - 46 notes